"In a perfect world, everyone would rejoice with their soul for the joys and successes of others."
But usually in the real world this is not the case. People constantly look at what our neighbor does, what he has and not who we are and what we have achieved.
We need to understand that each of us has our own value and has a different starting point from the rest of the people. This means a different path, choices, luck, circumstances. So everyone plays on different tracks and it's pointless to compare to something that we haven't chosen. We may be jealous of a friend's career but we remain unwilling to sacrifice time, money and personal life for such an achievement. You understand that it is useless to compare ourselves to things that we ultimately did not choose to achieve.
It is good to understand that comparing ourselves to others makes us unhappy and insecure. The only constructive comparison is of our present self with our yesterday self.
What we can do is see what we want to achieve, set realistic goals and move towards their implementation. This requires us to put the imagination us to work, plan the steps to follow and start today.
It is very helpful to remember the moment we compare ourselves to others:
- each person is unique and has his own value
- There is no perfect life and no ideal situations
- Our self-worth starts from within and has nothing to do with material goods, personal relationships and titles
- Accepting ourselves as they are
- A reminder of what we have achieved so far
- Avoiding the idealization created by perfect lives on social media
Remember that you are the best thing that ever happened to you. Look at yourself as a whole and don't constantly think that you are not good but all that you are good. The path to self-acceptance involves listening to our own needs and wants and forgetting social dictates. When you fully accept yourself your confidence and self-esteem will increase and you will feel worthy for who you already are!!
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