Do you want to change but give up?
Many times we start with joy, enthusiasm and determination and say "now I will change". We start with plans, dreams and suddenly something happens and we give up.
What went wrong? Why am I giving up again?
First of all, I want to tell you not to despair. It has happened to most people and there really is a reason it happens to us. At the beginning of each new decision we feel as if it is the first time that we want it so much and we feel so strong that we do not think of any obstacles. Our determination makes us feel passionate and energized. We are eager to discover new paths, make new choices and experiment!
But things start to change after a few weeks. We start and get tired, get frustrated and find obstacles. Remember the times you started a diet and gave it up. The times you signed up to a gym and after the first month you didn't have time. A change in your behavior that was not beneficial to you and your environment.
Why is this happening to us?
What leads us to disappointment and resignation? Can we change this condition?
Yes we can but it takes time, training and repetition. We are taught as children certain patterns of thought and behavior. The beliefs we carry are usually limiting and negative and have been built up for years. They have taken root in us, they have become our reality. This creates an internal resistance. Our self feels threatened, that it will lose something.
It's true, we're fooling around.
We need to get in touch with all of these dysfunctional thoughts, feelings and behaviors. So it makes sense that this resistance happens to us. Think that every time you find yourself in this situation, don't give up. See what you need to change, be persistent, ask for help.
It's worth making an effort because this is changing!!
The path to our inner change is the one that will give us new perspectives and we will see our life transformed!!
Change may take time and dedication but it is possible!!
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