I'm not having a good time, but why don't I change?

Many times you complain that things don't change and you feel trapped. You have made the choices
you either personally or professionally but something is not working.

You feel trapped in your own choices. The things you have chosen do not make you happy and happy. Fortunately things are not black and white, you just need to realize that you need to make some changes.
Humans are trained to stay in behaviors of the past that may have been effective once but are no longer.

Life is constantly changing, we refuse to change because that's just how we've been taught. But the constant repetition behaviors after all, today they keep us unhappy and powerless to lead us to a better everyday life and routine.
We often persist in following learned behaviors because we believe that it is difficult to change, that we are old enough, that others are to blame, etc.

At this point we need to pause, observe our behavior and the vicious circle we may be reproducing. We need to be honest with ourselves, give ourselves time and space to understand what we really desire.

Why don't people change?

-Fear of the unknown.

Change scares us, we don't like to try new things, let alone new behaviors. It is understandable to be afraid because the human species works biologically In this way. We fear what we don't know, we desire to be in control. Many times we choose situations and people that hurt us because they feel familiar.

-Stubbornness

Unfortunately there are people who believe that they are doing everything right and they don't need to change anything, but others do. If you belong to this category of people you should see yourself from a distance, become an observer. If you CAN'T do it alone, ask for help.

-The environment doesn't help

Unfortunately, our environment does not help us with the changes. When you decide to change there will be obstacles because people will look at you strangely, be surprised by your change of attitude and maybe feel rejected.

-Change is hard

It is true that changes are difficult, they require time, effort and persistence. It takes determination and repetition until it becomes a habit.

-Taking personal responsibility is not an easy task

How easy is it to admit your mistakes? What you have been taught since childhood is that others are to blame. It is very convenient to blame others because then you will not have to change. It takes courage to admit you are flawed. We live in a hypocritical society that advertises perfection while in reality it doesn't exist.

-Lack of patience

The rhythms of our lives are so fast and we want the results to happen immediately.
If this is not done we feel like a failure, we want if possible to make the change and the results come immediately.
This cannot happen because changes take time.

If you think about why you don't change a situation you don't like and contribute to suffering yourself, consider how familiar what you live is. Is it after all very familiar to you and while it has tired you, you can't let it go?
Remember that knowledge is Power!!
You can break the vicious cycle of learned behavior through the journey of self-awareness and knowledge. This will really help you understand why you are attracted to certain situations and that if you change, your life can also be transformed.